We've talked a bit about how 2020 is a challenging year, but that doesn't mean it's a lost cause, and we've talked about looking for the good in what's happening every day can help you feel better now I want to challenge you in one more way. And this one may be a bit harder. I want you to look at your friends and acquaintances. Focus on those you spend most of your time with, whether virtually or in person. Are they helping you move forward, or are they pulling you down with them?
Everyone is processing the grief/stress of the pandemic differently. Some are struggling with living their lives at all. Some are adjusting and adapting to this new normal and moving forward the best they can. There are people out there right now who are having record-breaking years in their businesses. I talked to a friend recently who is having her best year yet for work. Yeah, in the middle of a global pandemic, and she's never made more money. You better believe she's a friend I want to talk to and spend more time with because she sees the good in the situation right now.
I have other friends who I've pulled away from because they're so focused on how awful everything is in 2020 and what a mess it is and how depressing everything is, and they're determined to pull you down with them.
I don't want to dwell on the things we're missing out on right now because there's still so much that we can do. We can grow our businesses. We can start those companies we've been dreaming about for years. We can spend Saturday afternoon baking cinnamon rolls from scratch with our kids because we have the gift of time right now. Often, we are busy, and we run from one thing to the next every waking hour of every day, and right now, we don't have to do that. We can relax. We can enjoy ourselves. We can live in the moment.
We're in month eight of the pandemic. Did we expect to be here still? No. Could it have been different or prevented? Honestly, maybe yes and maybe no, but more than, does it matter? No. Because no could of, would of, should of will change the way things are right now. Choose how you want to respond to this situation and what you want to do moving forward. I think it's a great time to put your energy into the good that's possible from this situation and focus on the positives in life.
Look honestly at the people in your social media news feed, group texts, and friends and see are they helping you live your best life right now, or are they trying to drag you down into their misery or stress pool? I did this, and I pulled away from a close friendship months ago, and it's because I need to focus on the positive and look forward. I don't want to rehash how horrible everything is right now continually. If you've got someone in your life who's not helping you get to where you want to go (even if it's just that their comments or thoughts wear you down), then it's time to edit them out. Maybe it's a temporary move; perhaps it's permanent. Time will tell you what to do. But if you find someone is stressing you out or making you feel bad regularly, you don't need to be around them, especially right now. Choose who you want to spend your time with and choose wisely because our friends' moods and attitudes impact us significantly. If you're going to grow and succeed right now, look for people adjusting to the changes, looking forward, and figuring it out. Let those who want to focus on the negative do it together.